Servant Protocol

After a number of inquiries I am posting the main parts of our Servant Protocol here. Enjoy!

Note: Protocols are sometimes used by individuals in structured relationships (such as D/s and M/s). While enjoyable – by no means do all lifestyle relationships need to have them! It is a choice you make. In fact, in some of our relationships we use them – in others we don’t. It depends on the relationship structure and its nature.

If you are interested in protocols, you may enjoy reading “A Look at Protocols in M/s Relationships: Origin, Usage, and Implementation”.

Servant Protocol

This is the Protocol to be followed by any servant/submissive/slave (“servant”) serving in the Household of Sir Eric (“Sir”, “Master”) and Lady Christie (“Lady”, “Master”).

Failure in abiding to this protocol or to following orders from any of the Masters in the household will result in corrective action and/or punishment. Repeated occurrences of poor conduct, behavior, or order denial may result in dismissal.

The principle of confidentiality
Any person serving in the Household is expected to keep all information related to the Household completely confidential. This includes, but is not limited to, the Household’s structures and protocols, its individuals, activities, equipment and belongings – whether considered significant or insignificant.

The principle of transparency
Any person serving in the household is expected to be completely open and honest about himself/herself. This includes, but is not limited to, his/her professional and private activities, interests, and information.

I. General

The following general rules are always in effect.

I.1. Behavior

o servant must be attentive to his/her Masters’ needs at all times.

o servant may never touch his/her Masters’ property without explicit permission.

o servant shall never:

  • Indulge in, express, display or act out anger, moodiness or any disruptive emotions, behaviors or thoughts;
  • Display, by tone, body language or expression, his/her disagreement with, evaluation of or lack of earnest acceptance of an order; and
  • Delay beginning any actions. Any signs of stalling or diversion are a violation of promptness.

o When serving his/her Masters, servant is denied the use of the following items without first receiving permission:

  • Food and drink, except water;
  • Electronics and telephones except alarm clocks and cooking equipment;
  • Furniture, both in public and private; and
  • Anything that Masters place on servant is to be considered locked on and may only be removed by his/her Masters or with their permission.

o servant may not take action prior to his/her Masters for activities such as sitting, standing and eating.

o servant always walks on his/her Masters’ right side and slightly behind.

I.2. Presenting

o servant always Presents when entering the awareness of his/her Masters (their home or elsewhere) to learn what services they may require.

I.3. Communication

o servant will respond to questions with “Sir, Yes[No], Sir”, “Master, Yes[No], Master” or “Lady, Yes[No], Lady”, etc. When in public the use of a “theater whisper” may be used when appropriate.

o servant never argues.

o servant always uses honorifics in private.

o servant may speak in At Ease Mode while talking to other servants.

o servant addresses other Masters in the lifestyle by “Sir” or “Ma’am”.

II. Servitude Mode

Same rules apply as under Part I (“General”) with the modifications described below.

II.1. Behavior

o This is the default mode for servant unless told otherwise by his/her Masters.

o servant will not maintain continued eye contact with his/her Masters. Only brief eye contact is permitted when entering his/her Masters’ presence to learn if They desire his/her service.

II.2. Presenting

o Kneeling Present: A Kneeling Present is performed when returning to his/her Masters’ presence. servant will kneel when he/she gets into his/her Masters’ awareness, hands behind back, head down and await Their command. This is the default Present.

o Standing Present: A Standing Present is performed in a similar way as the Kneeling Present above except it is performed while standing.

o Greeting: “Sir, Master, Sir”, “Sir, my Master, Sir” or “Lady, my Owner, Lady”, etc. Used for greeting his/her Masters, while presenting.

o If Masters leave the room servant is in, upon their return it will present to learn if his/her Masters wish it to continue. This same rule applies if servant leaves a room and returns to a room where his/her Masters are present.

II.3. Communication

o servant always refers to his/her Master as “Master” and to his/her Lady as “Lady Christie”, or “Lady. ”

o servant always refers to himself/herself in the 3rd person, such as “servant”, “this servant” or “he/her”.

o Every sentence or question should begin and end with “Sir” or “Lady” (by multiple statements or questions, servant may begin and end his/her full statement with “Sir” or “Lady”).

o servant always asks for permission to raise a question: “Sir[Lady], may this servant ask a question, Sir[Lady]?”

o servant never says “sorry.” servant must say “Sir[Lady], beg Your pardon Sir[Lady].”

III. At Ease Mode

Same rules apply as under Part I and II (“General” and “At Ease Mode”) with the modifications described below.

III.1. Behavior

o servant is expected to be discreet in public, and may drop formalities that would appear unnatural in a vanilla context.

III.2. Presenting

o Public Present: A Public Present is a less formal Present designed to show respect to his/her Masters in public. servant is to briefly stop, lower his/her eyes, and slightly bow his/her head with his/her arms and hands at his/her side unless appropriate to place his/her hands behind his/her back.

2 Comments on "Servant Protocol"

  1. Carmen · January 28, 2015 at 5:44 pm · Reply

    It was such a great pleasure to watch you work last night at the Citadel. Looking forward to your next trip westward.

    Be well, and thank you for posting your protocols.


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