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My interview with Psychology Today – “Follow the Leader: Authority-Based Relationships Uncovered”

Posted on August 11, 2017 @ 10:33am by sardesign44No Comment

I was interviewed by Michael Aaron for Psychology Today on authority-based relationships.

You can read the interview – “Follow the Leader: Authority-Based Relationships Uncovered” Click here to read

Thank you for a great weekend at the Leather Leadership Conference! (March 10-12, 2017, Atlanta (GA))

Posted on March 19, 2017 @ 3:09pm by sardesign44No Comment

Thank you for a great weekend at the Leather Leadership Conference! (March 10-12, 2017, Atlanta (GA))

Thank you all for a wonderful Leather Leadership Conference weekend of lifestyle community, education, and leadership!

I took away a lot from the many awesome classes and personal conversations we had with people from our community across the country. And of course, it was also a lot of fun!

This is such an important conference for us as a community. It addresses […]

Another amazing weekend for body and soul @ Southwest Leather Conference! (Phoenix, AZ, January 19-22, 2017)

Posted on February 12, 2017 @ 5:27pm by sardesign44No Comment

Another amazing weekend for body and soul @ Southwest Leather Conference! (Phoenix, AZ, January 19-22, 2017)

Yesterday, we returned back home to NYC after an amazing weekend at Southwest Leather Conference (@SWLC) in Phoenix. We bring home many ideas, impressions and experiences to share with the NYC and east-coast communities.

SWLC is one of the five annual regional feeder contests (Northwest Leather Celebration, SouthEast LeatherFest, Master/slave Conference (Northeast) and Great Lakes Leather Alliance are the four other […]

The NYC Play & Rope Studio Experiment

Posted on September 20, 2016 @ 5:26pm by sardesign44No Comment

A three-month educational experiment. Every third Thursday. For three hours.

Did you know that in the last few years I have been teaching and presenting more outside New York City than here?

In an attempt to change that a bit, I am going to conduct an educational experiment called the NYC Play & Rope Studio. Once a month, for the next three […]

Thank you! (Charlottesville (VA), June 10-11, 2016)

Posted on June 14, 2016 @ 5:28pm by sardesign44No Comment

Thank you! (Charlottesville (VA), June 10-11, 2016)

Hello friends,

Huge thanks to all of you who came out to my EdgePlay intensive and play party in Charlottesville this weekend — it was an absolutely amazing time!

An intensive should be intense… And I think it was! It was so nice to meet all of you and share our passions for this kind of play. I enjoyed seeing each one […]

Top-notch jute rope at great prices

Posted on March 30, 2016 @ 4:38pm by sardesign44No Comment

Top-notch jute rope at great prices

Sir Cain of Epic Yarns (Dallas, TX) and Eric Pride have for the last 8 months worked together to develop a fantastic jute rope that (1) is fast to tie with, and (2) is super durable and can take a lot of use & abuse. It is available in natural, red, purple and black:

A one-ply jute rope: This rope, 5.5-5.7mm […]

Kink Weekly Interview

Posted on March 16, 2016 @ 6:44pm by sardesign44No Comment

Kink Weekly Interview

I was interviewed by anniebear of Kink Weekly about a week ago. We had so much fun talking about lifestyle education, community, spirituality, events and parties in New York City, and much more.

I hope you’ll enjoy reading it!

You can read the interview here:

http://www.kinkweekly.com/interview/anniebear-inter…

An amazing weekend for body and soul @ SWLC!

Posted on January 28, 2016 @ 10:02pm by sardesign44No Comment

An amazing weekend for body and soul @ SWLC!

We returned yesterday to NYC after an amazing weekend at Southwest Leather Conference (SWLC) in Phoenix. With an average temperature in the lower 60s at this time of year (Friday, when we arrived, it was actually 75F), this is a perfect get-away to start off the New Year – especially in a year when NYC experienced one of the most […]

Thank you! (EdgePlay Intensive @ Studio 58, November 6-7, 2015)

Posted on November 22, 2015 @ 7:56pm by sardesign44No Comment

Thank you! (EdgePlay Intensive @ Studio 58, November 6-7, 2015)

Hello Friends,

Many thanks for joining us for my EdgePlay intensive in Frederick. You welcomed us with open arms and made us feel at home at Studio 58!

Thank you for putting your souls and energy into the workshops and activities this weekend. An intensive should be intense… And you more than harnessed that concept; in fact, you excelled at it! I […]

How I Discovered Public Erotic Role Play

Posted on November 17, 2015 @ 4:43am by sardesign441 Comment

How I Discovered Public Erotic Role Play

A guest post by nameless_rose

At C.O.P.E. 2015 I volunteered to be one of Eric Pride’s demo bottoms for his class, “Public Play: How to Play Discreetly in Front of Others”. I leapt at the chance to demo bottom, because it sounded like the perfect opportunity to explore public humiliation. Public erotic humiliation is something I had often fantasized about, but […]

La Domaine Esemar, an experience of love and passion (Upstate New York, July 11-12, 2015)

Posted on July 13, 2015 @ 10:25pm by sardesign44No Comment

La Domaine Esemar, an experience of love and passion (Upstate New York, July 11-12, 2015)

This weekend we visited the BDSM chateau known as La Domaine Esemar. (You will find their FL group “Friends of La Domaine Esemar” here.) Established in 1993 by Master R (@Master_LaDomaine), it is one of the oldest training chateaus in the world as well as a kinky bed & breakfast. They are not just good at what they do – […]

TES Fest 2015 was amazing! (Piscataway, NY, July 2-5, 2015)

Posted on July 7, 2015 @ 8:52pm by sardesign44No Comment

TES Fest 2015 was amazing! (Piscataway, NY, July 2-5, 2015)

TES Fest is our “homecoming” event that I don’t want to miss for anything. It is so much fun to see old friends and family, and meet new people. This year was no exception — it was an awesome weekend and event!

There were really great classes, vending, meet & greets and other social events. I loved the rigs and other […]

Thunder in the Mountains 2015 was outstanding! (Denver, CO, June 26-28, 2015)

Posted on June 30, 2015 @ 4:20pm by sardesign44No Comment

Thunder in the Mountains 2015 was outstanding! (Denver, CO, June 26-28, 2015)

I had such a great time presenting at Thunder last year. When Rich called me early spring and asked me to present again this year, I agreed immediately.

I would like to express my sincere thanks to @ThunderGod, @Spikemustang and all the other organizers and staff at Thunder in the Mountains 2015. Thunder was a wonderful success and true pleasure to […]

South Plains Leatherfest 2015 was amazing! (Dallas, TX, March 13-15, 2015)

Posted on March 18, 2015 @ 3:38am by sardesign44No Comment

South Plains Leatherfest 2015 was amazing! (Dallas, TX, March 13-15, 2015)

Do you want to know a little “secret”? This was my first time in Texas. What a first time it was.

I would like to express my sincere thanks to @MasterJimTx, @slavemarsha, @Cougar and all the other organizers and staff at SPLF. SPFL was a wonderful success and true pleasure to attend and present at.

Congratulations to Master Kevin and slave feyrie […]

Thank you for a wonderful Fetish Fair Fleamarket #44 (February 13-15, 2015)

Posted on February 19, 2015 @ 11:54pm by sardesign44No Comment

Thank you for a wonderful Fetish Fair Fleamarket #44 (February 13-15, 2015)

I want to express my sincere thanks to NELA and the many volunteers who made the Fetish Fair Fleamarket #44 a great success and true pleasure to attend and present at.

Many thanks to all of you who came out to my presentations “Always Ready for Action: Play without Toys” and “Public Play: How to Play Discreetly in Front of Others” […]

ROPESCAPE Scholarship (Wilmington, DE, February 6-7, 2015)

Posted on January 25, 2015 @ 2:11pm by sardesign44No Comment

 

Dear Friends,

I am very eager to be teaching my new intensive, ROPESCAPE, in Delaware on February 6-7, 2015. To open up this intensive to a wide variety of participants in the community, I’m excited to announce that I’ve added two scholarships for ROPESCAPE.

This special “beginner’s scholarship” is being offered to a couple new to rope, who has not previously registered […]

Nuggets From “Rope Me In” & “Masque” in Philadelphia (December 27, 2014)

Posted on December 30, 2014 @ 2:40am by sardesign44No Comment

Wow, what a weekend this was! Did you also think so?

On the train back to NYC this afternoon, I was mulling my many awesome memories from this weekend. Let me share some of my main “nuggets” with you:

1. The kick ass classes at “Rope Me In” with some of our most talented riggers:

BlueRisk & DiamondSamurai
Dov
MataLeao & WickedBlueGlow
Matty

Personally, I […]

What Would Eric Pride Do? – a guest post by Yingtai

Posted on November 1, 2014 @ 2:00pm by sardesign44No Comment

This was a very fun class.  It was a pleasure playing with Yingtai as my demo bottom for my class Interrogation: The Border Between Play and Reality at The Society in May.  She wrote this very thoughtful response to my class. This is the third of a three-part response. She has given me permission to share this writing on my site.

As you may recall, I […]

Diabolical Genius, or I Love Interrogation – a guest post by Yingtai

Posted on October 24, 2014 @ 4:00pm by sardesign44No Comment

This was a very fun class.  It was a pleasure playing with Yingtai as my demo bottom for my class Interrogation: The Border Between Play and Reality at The Society in May.  She wrote this very thoughtful response to my class. This is the second of a three-part response.  She has given me permission to share this writing on my site.

 

Eric Pride is […]

Fall Is Upon Us

Posted on October 23, 2014 @ 5:48am by sardesign44No Comment

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I Will Never Forget Tuesday, September 11, 2001

Posted on September 11, 2014 @ 3:24pm by sardesign44No Comment

On September 11, thirteen years ago I worked in downtown Manhattan. When I got out of the subway underground that day, I was met by paper flying in the air. Paper everywhere.

I asked a few by-passers about what was going on. Nobody knew. Everyone was on their way to work.

It was 8:49 a.m., just three minutes after what I later […]

The good, the bad & the ugly – A guest post from LILNR

Posted on August 29, 2014 @ 4:47am by sardesign44No Comment

Cassandra (Sandy) Park is one of the coordinators for Long Island Leather N Roses as well as the organization’s webmistress. She has written several books about spanking and S&M, and is one of the featured authors in the First Annual BDSM Writers Con Anthology. She lives in Queens, NY.

 

Most of us have gone through breakups, in and out […]

It’s Getting Hot in Here.

Posted on July 9, 2014 @ 1:30am by sardesign44No Comment

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Eek! – a guest post by Yingtai

Posted on June 29, 2014 @ 3:23am by sardesign44No Comment

This was a very fun class.  It was a pleasure playing with Yingtai as my demo bottom for my class Interrogation: The Border Between Play and Reality at The Society in May.  She wrote this very thoughtful response to my class. This is the first of a three-part response.  She has given me permission to share this writing on my site.

I am […]

April Showers…

Posted on April 22, 2014 @ 4:43am by adminNo Comment

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The Leather Leadership Conference (LLC) was Amazing! (Philadelphia, April 11-13, 2014)

Posted on April 15, 2014 @ 7:43pm by sardesign44No Comment

Our weekend at LLC 2014 in Philadelphia was fantastic. This is an event for and with community leaders and presenters in the lifestyle from all over the US.

I’d like to thank Cowboi Jen, slave tina, Zeb, slave passion, 705, and all the other organizers and staff that made LLC 2014 such a great success. It was a true honor to […]

Upcoming Events In April

Posted on March 19, 2014 @ 3:27am by sardesign44No Comment

It’s been a busy winter — and its going to be a very busy summer!

I’m so excited to attend a number of great events in April. The Leather Leadership Conference (LLC) is April 11 – 13th in Philadelphia, PA. I’m truly honored to present at this conference this year and share teaching techniques that I use in my S&M and […]

January 11-12, 2014: Join us in Philly for Classes and Lots of Fun!

Posted on January 3, 2014 @ 7:50pm by HaileyNo Comment

We’ll be in Philly the weekend of Jan. 11-12 teaching several classes at the Aviary and The Kink Shoppe. And of course we’ll also play at the party at the Aviary on Saturday evening!

More about the classes:

Saturday, Jan 11, 7-8:30PM, Fucking with the Mind: Changing Reality Through Head Games
Sunday, Jan 12, 2-3:30PM, Rope 101: Basic Building Blocks of Shibari
Sunday, Jan […]

First Aid and CPR Resources

Posted on January 2, 2014 @ 8:00am by sardesign44No Comment

[Note: I am not a medical professional, First Aid and/or CPR expert. If you are, please do help make this information as current and as complete as possible by contributing any resources and information you find helpful just by responding to this thread.]

We should all know basic First Aid and CPR. It is particularly important to have these skills if […]

December 29, 2013, 8PM: My class before Suspension

Posted on December 13, 2013 @ 5:40pm by HaileyNo Comment

I am looking forward to doing my class “Going Deeper: Connection and Creativity in Play and S&M” before the Suspension party on the 29th.

Personally, what I like with this class is that it has something for everyone – whether top or bottom, novice or experienced…

What else? It will be fun, sexy, and connective of course! Nuff said.

Come join us for this class […]

Nov 29 – Dec 1, 2013: What a great weekend at Brimstone IV!

Posted on December 2, 2013 @ 5:53pm by HaileyNo Comment

A HUGE thanks to Dan and Zeb and the rest of the organizers and staff who made Brimstone IV such a wonderful event. I presented at Brimstone last year and was so happy when I was asked to come again this year. We had an amazing weekend this was!

We enjoyed walking around the hotel meeting other kinksters, play, and trade […]

The Master/slave History Project

Posted on May 8, 2013 @ 8:00am by sardesign44No Comment

Who are we? Where did we come from? How did we evolve and develop? A big part of our leather history hinges on the answers to these questions. Our leather history is an important part of our identity, values and beliefs – the heritage of you, me, and the community. It provides the glue that unites and holds us together. […]

Our 40th Fetish Fair Fleamarket Experience (Feb 15 – 17, 2013)

Posted on February 18, 2013 @ 8:00am by sardesign44No Comment

We had a great time at the 40th Fetish Fair Fleamarket this weekend!

Taking the train up there Friday afternoon, while pricey (go figure, it’s Amtrak!) it was well worth getting there without having to sit in traffic like several of our friends ended up doing who either took the bus or drove.

The conference hotel, the Omni (formerly, the Westin), was […]

2012 – Looking Back / 2013 – Looking Forward

Posted on December 30, 2012 @ 8:00am by sardesign44No Comment

Today I am thinking about year 2012 gone past.

It was a spectacular year in so many ways for us – professionally, privately and lifestyle-wise. If I had to sum it up it would be: Love and friendship are the most valuable assets we have. Treasure what we have and what we aspire to.

I leave you with the following three items […]

Interrogation Scenes

Posted on August 8, 2012 @ 5:58pm by admin4 Comments

I gave my presentation “Interrogation: The Border Between Play and Reality” for LILNR last night. The crowd transmitted such a wonderful beam of energy, making it a true pleasure to present. Talk about topspace

That’s what makes it so great to come out to Long Island. 

As a top, I love interrogation play. Yet, at the same time I fear […]

A Great Weekend TES Fest 2012

Posted on July 8, 2012 @ 12:44pm by adminNo Comment

We had a great time at TES Fest this on the weekend of June 29 – July 1, 2012. It was fun to see and hang out with many of our friends again, and play outside on the courtyard until the wee hours of the morning. 

I had a blast teaching my classes – many thanks to you who came and […]

May 26-27, 2012 (NYC): Creating and Living Positive BDSM & Kinky Lifestyle Relationships

Posted on April 9, 2012 @ 4:50am by admin1 Comment

This two-day workshop is for individuals, couples and families who identify with a kinky or BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives – irrespective of gender identity, sexuality or kink interests. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn […]

Oct 22-23, 2011 (NYC) Creating and Living Positive BDSM and Kinky Lifestyle Relationships

Posted on October 4, 2011 @ 3:34pm by adminNo Comment

This two-day workshop is for individuals, couples and families who identify with a kinky or BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives – irrespective of gender identity, sexuality or kink interests. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn […]

May 28-29, 2011 (NYC) Creating and Living Positive BDSM & Kinky Lifestyle Relationships

Posted on March 27, 2011 @ 9:35pm by admin1 Comment

This two-day workshop is for individuals, couples and families who identify with a kinky or BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives – irrespective of gender identity, sexuality or kink interests. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn […]

October – Special Workshop – Creating and Living Positive BDSM Lifestyle Relationships

Posted on October 6, 2010 @ 1:48pm by adminNo Comment

Creating and Living Positive BDSM Lifestyle Relationships is a weekly four-part series throughout October designed for individuals, couples and families who identify with the BDSM lifestyle and desire to incorporate it into their daily lives. It is intended for anyone who wants to start a new relationship, take an existing one to the next level, or simply wants to learn […]

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